Sometimes I just need to vent..
I was taught as a child, the golden rule, “treat others how you want to be treated.” What I wasn’t advised of is that this rule doesn’t apply in love or relationships.
We all have our very own love language. Fortunately yet unfortunately, it takes time to get to know a person and the love language that speaks to their heart.
I always thought that this process is what “dating” is about. To get to know one another.
During this getting to know you process, certain holidays and life markers such as birthdays or anniversaries appear.
Now as you get to know and grow to love someone you are most likely inclined to celebrate or give gifts to the person that you are dating.
Here is where it gets tricky….
Being that you are still getting to know this person it make take a little trial and error in the gift giving department.
Now I feel that I am a good listener and I retain certain key points from conversation that may provide clues as to what the person I am dating may like.
I love to shower a person with adoration, compliments, letters, handmade gifts, etc. BUT that may not be the love language of the person that I am dating.
So when it comes time for me to give /show tokens of love if I give a gift that appeals to my love language. I may be setting myself up for disappointment because I don’t get the reaction that I would have given.
I learned a valuable lesson today. I have amended the golden rule to state, “treat others as you would like them to treat you AND….. Love others in a language that speaks to their heart, not to yours.